How to Get Through Your First Heartbreak

There comes a time in all of our lives when we ride a bike for the first time on our own, sleep over at a friend’s house (for the whole night!), our first day of elementary school, first day at high school, our very first date, our very first kiss, and the first time we fall in love! These are all exciting firsts, and our parents and those who care about us do their very best to prepare us for these first special events. However, there’s a first that nobody can prepare us for, a first that everybody wishes didn’t exist and it’s almost inevitable that will happen to you at some point.

If you’re reading this article then the chances are you are going through your first heartbreak, the pain of losing the first person you have ever loved. Unlike other things in life, nobody can prepare you for the feeling of falling in love, you just have to experience it for yourself. Likewise, nobody can prepare you for heartbreak either, and unfortunately it also is an experience that you can only get through by experiencing it for yourself.

Now I know in an ideal world we would have a perfect childhood, get perfect grades as school, meet the perfect match, fall in over instantly and live happily ever after. Have you ever thought about how often that actually happens? Ok perfect grades might be achievable, but everything else is almost always fairy-tale.

According to “love experts”, it’s actually very uncommon for a human being to not experience a broken heart at least once in their life time. It seems to be a part of our nature, and just a part of life. The good news is that the pain doesn’t last forever and it’s true that it does make you stronger. It also increases the chance of a successful relationship in the future. The truth is that most people fall in love for the first time when they’re young, too immature and too inexperienced to properly appreciate both the rewards and sacrifices involved in a true, loving relationship. The other problem with people who fall in love during their late teens (the most common age to fall in love) is they are actually falling in love with someone who is going to change, mature, and become an adult who may or may not be the same person they fell in love with. They themselves will change and although life-long relationships between high-school sweethearts do happen, they are very rare only accounting for about 2% of all marriages that last more than eight years.

Now that we know this is really a part of life, what can we do to make the pain go away? The truth is only time will truly allow us to heal our first heartbreak. This is both a curse and blessing, because going through your first heartbreak feels like time is against you, like the end will never come. However, the end does come, and time may not be your friend now, but in the future it will eventually help you get over your first love.

Here are some important tips experts say will help you beat the pain (and not make it any worse):

  • End all contact
    This one it tough, perhpas the toughest thing to so but once you know the relationship is over it only makes it harder if you want to try and "stay friends" ot have any kind of contact.
  • Spend time with family and friends
    The people who care about you the most are also the best people to be around when you have a broken heart. They will remind you that there is much more to life than just one other person, and it makes the healing process so much easier when you're not doing it alone
  • Have a good cry
    It's ok to cry, let it out. Crying is our bodies way of healing, it's also a trigger to those around you that you could use a big hug right about now. Which brings us to the next tip
  • Get hugs
    Ask someone for a hug. There's a magic kind of healing that happens when a heartbroken person receives a hug. We don't know how it all works, but it works, ask for a hug!

Finally think about this. One day you will meet the man or woman of your dreams and you will look back at yourself now and realize that everything happens for a reason. The person who broke your heart wasn't the right person for you and now you are free to go and find the right person and perhaps the true love of your life!